Anger and forgiveness

[Timeless]

The reason why people feel anger is because they believe someone is doing them wrong or intentionally trying to hurt them. Most of the time, anger arises in relationships where communication is lacking.

Or maybe you are angry at the situation you are in. But if that is the case, you should only be angry at yourself, because that is where you put yourself. And you can never really be angry at yourself for too long. Forgiveness will come.

Eventually, if you are going the right direction, anger will turn into self love. And then, nothing else will hurt you.

Everything comes back to YOU

Interesting And perhaps for you this is where you are at in your own journey?

But it isn't always the case. Anger is an energy/ an emotion, whereas what you are talking about are the thoughts that you attach to the emotion. When you stop needing to blame something or someone (even yourself) for whatever it is you are angry about, then anger is simply one emotion of many. It can be experienced without attachment or blame.

In that way, anger can be felt simultaneously with self love and anger can be felt without blame.

[knightofalbion]

'Forgiveness sets two souls free'

Anger and bitterness eat away at you and bind you, as if by a heavy weight ...
Forgiveness lifts the weight from you and sets you free - free to be you ...

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An observation: Things you are angry about, the chances are, ten years, five years, even one year from now you'll look back and deem that whatever it was was just stupid and petty and not worth all the kerfuffle.
At the end of the day, few things truly matter.

[FairyCrystal]

Originally Posted by Ivy

Interesting And perhaps for you this is where you are at in your own journey?

But it isn't always the case. Anger is an energy/ an emotion, whereas what you are talking about are the thoughts that you attach to the emotion. When you stop needing to blame something or someone (even yourself) for whatever it is you are angry about, then anger is simply one emotion of many. It can be experienced without attachment or blame.

In that way, anger can be felt simultaneously with self love and anger can be felt without blame.

Anger is an emotion yes, but it's a secondary emotion. Meaning there's another emotion underneath, causing it. In most cases it is hurt of some form.
So basically you gotta find out what that is and work on that. Then the anger will dissipate.
You can start by accepting the anger as opposed to trying to fight it, suppress it or, even worse, be consumed by it. Accepting it will take the edge of, making it easier to find out what is really underneath it.

Originally Posted by Timeless

The reason why people feel anger is because they believe someone is doing them wrong or intentionally trying to hurt them. Most of the time, anger arises in relationships where communication is lacking.

Anger can simply arise when things aren't going your way or someone disagrees with you when you're absolutely sure that you're right but things get het-up.

If anger arises in relationships, their day is up... unless it's over a misunderstanding that can definitely be resolved.

But anger can also flare when one has had a bad day and the trigger threshold is lower.

Originally Posted by Timeless

Eventually, if you are going the right direction, anger will turn into self love. And then, nothing else will hurt you.
Everything comes back to YOU

Not so sure about that. Anger can simply dissipate, especially if what caused it can be erased or the situation resolved and/or the antagonists calm down. Your situation may be different however. Long-term and/or seething anger is different - something I haven't experienced for years. Undercurrents are usually dangerous.

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[Squatchit]

Originally Posted by Ivy

It can be experienced without attachment or blame.

Yes. I find it can be healthy to experience anger this way.

Originally Posted by nobleknight

...not worth all the kerfuffle.

One of my favourite words!

Originally Posted by FairyCrystal

Anger is an emotion yes, but it's a secondary emotion. Meaning there's another emotion underneath, causing it. In most cases it is hurt of some form.
So basically you gotta find out what that is and work on that. Then the anger will dissipate.
You can start by accepting the anger as opposed to trying to fight it, suppress it or, even worse, be consumed by it. Accepting it will take the edge of, making it easier to find out what is really underneath it.

Emotions are complex - as part of the stress response, anger is the emotion associated with the energy of the 'fight' response. In that situation, it could be called a primary emotion. But when emotions like hurt or fear are repressed, then as you say, anger is then a symptom of those repressed energies.

I have found that emotions experienced in the moment can be handled/dealt with very differently than how I dealt with repressed emotions in the past.