taking steps to start loving yourself

[girlsearching]

Originally Posted by Mikey's

Hello, I have been reading these post and can tell you it is hard. I am married with a little one, and my spouse keeps threatening divorce. So it can be difficult to look inside and see what your inner beauty. To love others, you do have to love your self. And in order to love yourself you must go positive. Positivity breads positivity. You can change your surroundings by being in a positive person. I read an amazing book that has changed my life. It is call "Dark side of light chasers" by Debbie Ford, and she talks about owning all the things you don't like about yourself. One way of doing this is by sitting in the mirror and saying to yourself "I am ......" For me I had to say over and over "I am my father." My father was a rough man and after looking at my actions I needed change. After you own the darkness you can bring in the light and love to yourself. And I will be honest this has taken a couple years to figure this out but I am figuring it out. So to sum it up..... Love all your faults. Love who you are. Love every part of yourself and go positive.

thank you Mkey, and i hope for the best for your family. i shall check the book out.

when i have problems loving myself i sometimes try to think outside the box and pretend Im someone else, and ask myself, what would I think of that person. like if i mess up on something and beat myself up over it, I would never say those things if someone else did it, why say it to myself? we're all equally valid poeple and that includes me. I just keep having to remind myself of that cause sometimes i forget, its hard to remember that stuff

[girlsearching]

Originally Posted by InCarna

when i have problems loving myself i sometimes try to think outside the box and pretend Im someone else, and ask myself, what would I think of that person. like if i mess up on something and beat myself up over it, I would never say those things if someone else did it, why say it to myself? we're all equally valid poeple and that includes me. I just keep having to remind myself of that cause sometimes i forget, its hard to remember that stuff

InCarna you are right i just have to love myself. and i know that deep down inside there is a confident young lady that is waiting to burst out of her shell i just know it.

I started to use the original Ho'oponopono technique, which is just say I Love You, Thank You. It works most of the time for me. I agree with Henri77 about accepting ourselves just the way we are without having any judgement.

[girlsearching]

Originally Posted by littleangelite

I started to use the original Ho'oponopono technique, which is just say I Love You, Thank You. It works most of the time for me. I agree with Henri77 about accepting ourselves just the way we are without having any judgement.

Littleangelite i think you are right about the technique, i have to start saying i'm beautiful and i'm worthy of being loved too. i look in the mirror and only wish that i could change.

[Belle]

Originally Posted by girlsearching

Littleangelite i think you are right about the technique, i have to start saying i'm beautiful and i'm worthy of being loved too. i look in the mirror and only wish that i could change.

All you need to change is your perception of self.

It's something I'm working through, I catch myself saying stupid self-deprecating remarks and so on. It doesn't help me or anyone.

Your mantras can increase, and keep them as a soundbyte in your mind, as I say it's something I'm working on and I have bad moments and pick myself up, and it's getting easier.

The first week was really bizarre tho, it's like learning to use a new muscle and it felt wrong wrong wrong but it does get easier.

[girlsearching]

Originally Posted by Belle

All you need to change is your perception of self.

It's something I'm working through, I catch myself saying stupid self-deprecating remarks and so on. It doesn't help me or anyone.

Your mantras can increase, and keep them as a soundbyte in your mind, as I say it's something I'm working on and I have bad moments and pick myself up, and it's getting easier.

The first week was really bizarre tho, it's like learning to use a new muscle and it felt wrong wrong wrong but it does get easier.

thanks Belle you are right about changing my preception of myself . i often do say negative things and than i start to belive the words to be true.