Relationships and Growth

[Lynn]

Hello


For those that know my story here that I married my Twin Flame that is a member here that was a friend for year's, we just celebrated 9 years married.

Life has been a ride and a half in the past 2 years for me. What I can say is Golden Years is ** as far as being nice and restful and relaxed as the body starts to hate you more and more with age.

We have been so tested in the past few years too Heart and I but are still very much in love and growing stronger as we age as a couple. That I think is what matters most.

I have had to put my eldest Son on the do not contact me list as money had rotted his brain and compassions. Since the passing of the EX and the inheritance he left behind they kids are not the same. I still have 2 at home but its a struggle at times to motivate them forwards with a life.

This too I feel is a lesson for Heart and I before we pass on to get them sorted to be able to have a life independent of us.

I am not working so much now, but too I need the income but health comes first as I am now at the pool working on the body and the mind more.

We live in odd times where drug use is common place and being homeless does not mean you want a home it seems. We have so many on the streets now that do not want to do more than steal. You offer a meal or shelter they do not want that. Mental health issues at times play a role but too many times its life choices. I deal with a lot of this around me in work, but too that is a part of me being me.

Where is the world going who knows.....I just know that I am along for the ride.

Lynn

[Unseeking Seeker]

Thanks for sharing, Lynn. I’m sure many will relate.

As for children and family, I received a clear telepathic message, loud and clear many years back, saying that ‘no one is yours, all are mine!’ - meaning that children are born to us but are independent souls on their own journey and as such, we must become detached (not indifferent but nonchalant), bending down to God, in surrender.

If we feel estranged, are we carrying guilt, shame, disappointment, resentment? If so, we must release these toxins. That’s what I’d say.

[JustBe]

Originally Posted by Unseeking Seeker

we must become detached (not indifferent but nonchalant), bending down to God, in surrender.

If we feel estranged, are we carrying guilt, shame, disappointment, resentment? If so, we must release these toxins. That’s what I’d say.

I’ve had to let my son go to death in me, mostly because I realised I was holding him as myself on so many levels of my own process. In saying this, there is also unfinished business in relation to our processors around family as a whole installation and creation as ourselves. So what has been set in motion through the whole, ( from birth to now) we complete those cycles through those deeper letting go processors as ourselves. The past entanglements become an ever deepening opportunity to recreate a new relationship, as we forge our own.

Until you fully release yourself of all attachments to children and love and support them as they are, through clarity of your own being, it’s difficult to know where entanglements still exist.

Once you see them seperate, ( which many parents struggle to see) that modelling lends the karmic binds to reignite the relationship differently.

[Starman]

I embrace and support everything which has already been said about children and parents, but I would like to speak to aging and what we call “growing old,” or our “golden years.” Some people struggle with this more than others, and the term “mid-life crisis” has been applied to many who have not come to grow old gracefully.

Yes, there are elderly people who do not have the means to take care of themselves, and many have been abandoned by their kids and other family members. Still, it is my experience at age-77, that it is all in my perspective and my own spirituality how I view my aging physical body. For most people their body starts declining in their forties.

The decline of our physical body, in my opinion, is a preparation for letting go of our physical body while still maintaining as much health and vitality in our body even as it declines. The growth of our relationships also includes the relationship which we have with ourselves and our body. How do we relate to our physical body, our thoughts, feelings, and our own spirituality.

This, to me, is essential for spiritual growth and development. People usually think about the relationships which they have with others but we must also look at how we relate to ourselves. Most people throughout their life are reacting to other people, places, or things. In my advancing years I have learned to quiet my mind and react less than I used to.

The world and people in it is not going to develop on my terms or how I feel it should be going. It is important for me to be at peace with myself regardless what is happening in this world, with my blood relations, or other people. It pains me to see some of this stiff but I cannot let it shake my spiritual foundation. The concept of family is different in different cultures and some embrace all human beings as family.