I don't care either way. I welcome friends in my life who respect me and who can truly love and accept me as I am. If I can find someone who is willing, able, and desires to take me as I am and love and respect me as an equal, and above all to be my friend as well as (one day perhaps) my partner, then yes, I am open to a relationship. But not on lesser terms. It's just not appealing and holds no draw.
It all comes down to whether or not we as both individuals and as a society largely decide to work for what is authentic and requires our time and engagement, or to settle for what is fast, easy, and artificial. If there are not enough of us at this time who require authenticity and true partnership and respect, then many of us we will be alone at any given time. By choice
I just broke off with someone who wanted to marry but didn't understand what true partnership and respect mean. They mean kindness and tolerance and compassion, not ownership and criticism and arrogance. *sigh*. These belong to the dustbin of history and we can't get there fast enough in my book.
There is no substitute for authentic love and connection, and it's rather sad and pathetic that so many think that casual sex is good enough, since they dont' care to make the effort to be real and connect more deeply. What's even sadder is when others give in to demands for casual sex in lieu of an authentic connection, simply because it's much more difficult to find. It's like a steady diet of junk food and electroshock therapy, LOL...I'll pass!!! and be content with friends who do honestly love and respect me for more than just my body and my company
I don't rule out a relationship, but frankly, as we evolve as people (and hopefully as a species), it's not the time and place to be intimate unless there is some form of truly committed love. Intimacy isn't just something you throw out on the table for someone else to play with when they feel like it and then grow bored of it like a spoiled toddler and their latest toy, LOL.
I think many of us realise (or need to haha) that if we want to partake of the joy, we have to be the joy. An by that I don't mean "free sex" LOL....
Love is free, yes, and authentic love is joyful and sweet, but even it may not always rise to the level of intimacy. Whilst IMO intimacy of the physical variety is to be shared with one other only within an authentic loving and (in some fashion) committed context.
For certain, if our hearts and souls are not committed to loving and being intimate with the other person, then why would we go there?
Intimacy is not to be freely given and also then freely discarded, like trash, or like a piece of food to consume in hunger and excrete at leisure...
But freely given within a space of real love and trust, within the circle of belonging. Otherwise it is just an urge, like hunger and excretion...and we have then robbed it of the humanity and the divinity that we should be bringing to it.
Seriously. For that, for the need for touch or release or whatever it is, we can each take care of our own needs...and IMO for this, we
should take care of our own needs and keep it to ourselves.
For more than that, for love and intimacy, IMO we cannot treat another soul so callously and meaninglessly. By doing so, we degrade ourselves as well as them. We rob both ourselves and the other of the sanctity our bodies and our hearts and souls require and deserve.
Peace & blessings,
7L