Romantic love without attachment

[Louisa]

Originally Posted by Out_of_Here

You will be betrayed anyway. As soon as the guy is dead, you are betrayed. Funny. People never sense their death. They think they live for ever.

Death of our loved ones is something we all should be prepared for, in relationships, I guess.

[SeaZen]

Originally Posted by Louisa

How possible do you think it is to have a romantic love without attachment?

And how deep do you think it can be, while still remaining detached?

This is just something I've been thinking of - wouldn't it be nice if we could protect ourselves from the harm of being betrayed or rejected by someone we thought we could trust our life to, maybe even after years of loyalty and love?

And yes, I know, there's sometimes lessons in the loving - "Better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all". But still, it would be nice if a romance could be close, deeply in love and all that, yet still detached and able to break it off in a moment's notice at the first signs of unhealthy dependency or some major incompatibility, etc.

What are your thoughts?

Louisa you are asking the right questions and evolving in the process!!! Congrats!!!

I feel the more we are able to love ourselves the less attached to others we become and the easier it is to let go of or be affected by the behavior of others....

[Louisa]

SeaZen, yes self-love is important for the process, I agree.