Have you known a person like this.

I am not necessarily asking because I need advice. Rather just a sense that I am not crazy.

When you are around them you find yourself caught in a cycle of being, "the bad person" or "a stupid bumbling moron". No matter how smart, helpful or kind you can be with them, they act like you are a total screw up. Yet when you avoid them they act like you are heartless uncaring POS.

[Lucid68]

Sounds like someone with a personality disorder . . . In my opinion.

...I second that.

....or possibly sadistic? (If you have accurately portrayed this person)

[HalfGirl]

I am learning to remove people from my life, who are no good to me. Sometimes I don’t feel good/comfortable around certain people, like I can’t be myself when I am around them. But I always felt I have to be the nice girl and spend time with them anyway. Well, not anymore. I am slowly removing myself away from certain people, by simply not initiating contact, or by simply not reacting to their messages.

Instead, I am spending more time with people who I really love and care about and it has done me so good. There will always be situations, like work functions, where you simply have to deal with all kinds of people. That’s fine, I can do that, I simply put on my charming smile and do it. I simply see this as part of my job, but in private, I decide myself who I want to have contact with.

Originally Posted by HalfGirl

I am learning to remove people from my life, who are no good to me. Sometimes I don’t feel good/comfortable around certain people, like I can’t be myself when I am around them. But I always felt I have to be the nice girl and spend time with them anyway. Well, not anymore. I am slowly removing myself away from certain people, by simply not initiating contact, or by simply not reacting to their messages.

Instead, I am spending more time with people who I really love and care about and it has done me so good. There will always be situations, like work functions, where you simply have to deal with all kinds of people. That’s fine, I can do that, I simply put on my charming smile and do it. I simply see this as part of my job, but in private, I decide myself who I want to have contact with.

See post below

Originally Posted by HalfGirl

I am learning to remove people from my life, who are no good to me. Sometimes I don’t feel good/comfortable around certain people, like I can’t be myself when I am around them. But I always felt I have to be the nice girl and spend time with them anyway. Well, not anymore. I am slowly removing myself away from certain people, by simply not initiating contact, or by simply not reacting to their messages.

Instead, I am spending more time with people who I really love and care about and it has done me so good. There will always be situations, like work functions, where you simply have to deal with all kinds of people. That’s fine, I can do that, I simply put on my charming smile and do it. I simply see this as part of my job, but in private, I decide myself who I want to have contact with.

Good for you!

I also initiated this (long time ago now). It was a major step towards living authentically.

Friendship and caring should be mutual; if it's constantly more lopsided then maybe time for a reassessment in my view.
I bet you feel more invigorated and freer as a result.

[peteyzen]

Originally Posted by Tera's_Party

I am not necessarily asking because I need advice. Rather just a sense that I am not crazy.

When you are around them you find yourself caught in a cycle of being, "the bad person" or "a stupid bumbling moron". No matter how smart, helpful or kind you can be with them, they act like you are a total screw up. Yet when you avoid them they act like you are heartless uncaring POS.

Have you told them how they make you feel?

[Topaz]

Originally Posted by Tera's_Party

I am not necessarily asking because I need advice. Rather just a sense that I am not crazy.

When you are around them you find yourself caught in a cycle of being, "the bad person" or "a stupid bumbling moron". No matter how smart, helpful or kind you can be with them, they act like you are a total screw up. Yet when you avoid them they act like you are heartless uncaring POS.

Oh yes, this happened to me with my soul connection or what ever he was .

Definitely sounds like you're caught up with someone who has so many hang ups about themselves, they project them on to you (or any other willing party), rather than own up to them themselves. Always remember that how a person is, how a person reacts, is solely that person being and acting how they choose to. You don't cause a person to be or do anything. If it makes you feel bad being around this guy/girl, then I'd suggest you say something about what bothers you, as it appears when you step back and don't contact them, they make you feel guilty for that! Your energy will be sapped constantly in this situation. You need to speak your truth and remove yourself from them if they refuse to look at themselves properly rather than blaming you. Hope this helps!