Enlightenment, attachment and entanglement

[In Flux]

I think it's so tricky to deal with attachment. I'm very lonely romantically speaking. This is a painful attachment, a painful identification, a process of desire and yearning that is happening inside me. Happiness on the other hand feels more unattached. It's connected to positive things happening in my life, e.g. friendships, inspiration, things going well, but the feeling of happiness is a feeling of expansion and freedom that seems (at least, potentially) to go beyond these positive experiences.
The feeling of attachment is often even there for trivial reasons, such as desiring some material thing, or not achieving something, or losing a game of chess. I feel like I need to engage with these negative experiences, but in the right way. Give them attention, but not wallow in them. Especially when it comes to romantic loneliness. If I try to ignore it, then I start to feel numb and depressed. On the other hand, I think that it would be a mistake to completely give in to the idea that I need romance, or this material thing, or winning this chess game. Maybe the word entanglement describes it better than attachment for me. Instead of disentangling or severing, I can try to dissolve, which is more akin to healing it. When you are burning with disappointment, maybe over some material thing, it almost feels too late to disentangle, but you can still heal (that sounds a like a too dramatic word, especially when it comes to material things, but I think it still applies, because this is just one of the many ways in which we get attached, both to trivial things and more substantial ones). And maybe this healing comes from recognizing that you are burning with a certain pain, and recognizing that this pain should be taken seriously, even if the cause (the lack of something you are attached to) should perhaps not be taken completely seriously (since it's probably rooted in some kind of delusion or misunderstanding).