Open Sharing of Life Lessons from 33 Years

[Gem]

Originally Posted by Lynn

Hello

As the journey moves forwards we often get lost in the mix. People coming at you from this direction and that direction and you are in the middle. How many out here can relate to this in the "wedding planning" space of being ?

This is where I am at right now. While I am blessed not to have the "family" dynamics out there to deal with where its 'done this way' I am feeling that pull to stand my ground. I want a simple wedding without invites and the formal digs of a church. I am doing it at the spiritual centre I help run, on a Sunday at the regular meeting time. Whom ever is there is there with a simple Pot Luck afterwards.

I am leaving the cake in the hands of a friend will see it that day, want no flowers as I have so many allergies, theme is Alice in Wonderland Mad Hatters Tea Party.....so funky hats are welcome. Yet some feel that I need that traditional vail on my head...ICKY POTTY expressions !

The date I picked to some clashes with another even in town that will take some there, but at the time I had no clue of this event....so again I am asked to change my date. Hmmmm no.

Its a wonder that we do not all run away to wed.....

Share your family and friend dynamics of this special day so maybe I do not feel so alone and out there as I do right now.....

I am off to England April 2nd back April 10th wedding April 26th....yes I can do this....Breathe is the advice I get most. LOL


Lynn

Ok, because to me, standing ground is very important. People all have those things that they want to see and are thinking in terms of 'shoulds'. People also want you, or me, to behave in a certain way and do things as they 'should' be done. But, these expectations are oppressions and make life a burden, so I'm currently investigating my own inner voice and finding it uses 'should' too often. Shoulds are also coming from the past as they then project into the future and we become caught in that psychologically, instead of being free unto ourselves. This is where it becomes standing ground, because the shoulds were taught to us, and also internalised, and then we live in subservient obedience to the wants of others and to our own expectation which are based in the past. The whole thing is big in society and comes through families and all the institutions like schools and so on, so standing ground isn't so easy, and it can be uncomfortable for self and also upsetting for others.