Care

[JustBe]

Curiously today, I’m looking at care towards yourself and life. How the care you give to you, extends outwardly as care to life around you.

In todays world of social media and people baring and exposing their lives, out to a greater world, you notice how important validation, likes and acknowledgment becomes in their world. It’s all part of building acceptance and self love, self care. I’m not against it. I see the value in its creator and creation as a shared space.

We find what we need as we send outwardly our own creation.

People who love and care, often don’t think these two positive attributes can be emeshed or entangled with unhealthy attachments. Yet all things (whether labelled as good or not so good) we do and create from our reality within, do get entangled by deeper unhealthy attachments, that we sometimes over look.

Care especially can hold within itself hidden agendas. Our ignorance of course, unable to notice or our minds idea, deciding, because it’s good and we care it has no hidden agenda.

Many if us have been bound by ‘duty’ ‘it’s the right thing to do’. We are also driven by extremes, where by we’ve had models who were very uncaring and unloving, so we take up the cause of care and love, determined to not be like them at any cost. Sadly for many people what they often house within the whole framework, is unresolved reactions, that keep this person going, keep it alive, determined to show themselves and others, they are good people.

In this striving to be this good and caring person, you can miss vital pieces of yourself contained by these kind of ideas and conditions set up by life and yourself.

You lose the true essence of what your authentic true self is as a loving caring person. Without any attachments, you’ll begin to see that it isn’t bound by anything, their is no measure, or comparisons. Their are no need to do or be in this space. Plus it isn’t identified by anything. It is you being you. You’ve cared for yourself so deeply you’ve let go of the external ideals about how you should be and show care.

As a model of care without pleasing, duty or bound by anything, care takes on a whole new approach. Discernment and patience, understanding and recognition from a bigger picture, lead you more aware, more spontaneously rather than rigid and fixed by governing old school systems in you.

People often flinch when identity meets this part of them.

They don’t want to be seen in bad light, as a person who is not good. Who doesn’t care.

Yet the hidden agendas priming and motivating your care, are and will be detrimental to you and others long term.

True care through your true self, doesn’t create upheavals and reactions. True self and your care is right and true and clear.

You wont care what other people care about your care. You’ll be aware of the changing face of care and care differently, more observant and aware of your own motivations. More aware and clear how spontaneity serves the shared space equally and as each need separately.