how to cope with being single when everyone around you is in relationships

[girlsearching]

I'm 23 years old and I never been a serious relationship yet. I'm' not trying to rush the progress either it will happen when the time is right for a person to enter my life or not.

[ocean breeze]

Originally Posted by girlsearching

I'm 23 years old and I never been a serious relationship yet. I'm' not trying to rush the progress either it will happen when the time is right for a person to enter my life or not.

I'm on the same boat except i'm 33 lol. I agree with Clover about pursuing something you are passionate about. I completely forget about relationships when my mind is focused on other things. I don't worry about those around me being in relationships because i know some of them are miserable because of their relationship. But i too feel lonely from time to time and would like to meet someone who is compatible with me.

[girlsearching]

Originally Posted by ocean breeze

I'm on the same boat except i'm 33 lol. I agree with Clover about pursuing something you are passionate about. I completely forget about relationships when my mind is focused on other things. I don't worry about those around me being in relationships because i know some of them are miserable because of their relationship. But i too feel lonely from time to time and would like to meet someone who is compatible with me.

You'll find someone who is compatible with yourself. I want someone who can teach me things and I can do the same vice versa for him. You're right about people whom are just "miserable" or "content" with their significant other.

[ocean breeze]

Originally Posted by girlsearching

You'll find someone who is compatible with yourself.

Thanks, that means a lot.

Originally Posted by girlsearching

I want someone who can teach me things and I can do the same vice versa for him.

Same, a balanced relationship where we push each other to be better.

Good luck in your journey.

[taurmel]

I remember being in my 20s and feeling that a relationship was something I had to seek...I found it, got married, and was miserable for the next seven years! I'm also 33 (I'm going to be sad to leave this age lol!) and realized a year ago that I can be happy AND be single! That's definitely not to say I don't get lonely...geez, I'm lonely right now! But, I've noticed that desperate loneliness goes hand-in-hand with my hormone shifts lol so I don't give in to them and seek comfort with another very wrong person just because ;)

So many people are miserable and stuck, but, there are so many people who are happy in relationships...that's what I aspire for, and refuse to settle for less than, not like in my 20s where I felt I HAD to fill a proverbial void and grow old with someone else.

Speaking of growing older, you are still so very young, and the rate at which people grow is not the same. The only truth is, majority of people do grow and expand, and sometimes their partner does so in the opposite direction. Those are the relationships who end up miserable together because they got together when they weren't secure in their own self (obviously not everyone, just generalized). So, don't force a relationship just to have one, sometimes friends, or even yourself, can fill that loneliness for now :)

[joyfirst]

Totally agree with many points here. Before my marriage I thought that having my own family was the answer to happiness, but when I got married I realized it is not. Now I am happily divorced, and have to say I feel better than ever before. It is not being in the relationship or not being in one that makes us happy. It is either appreciation based thinking or being present (no thinking and just pure experience.) But I have to say, that being single makes it easier to be appreciative or present. Possibly, because of less triggers, which bring up lost of negative beliefs, needing approval, expecting other person to behave in certain way, etc. It is much easier to connect to inner joy and peace, when I am single.

[A human Being]

Originally Posted by memo20

I'm almost 24 and have pretty much been single my whole life. I'm really quite shy. I've dated a few people but it was for a month or so. Then I met the love of my life which I believe is my tf. But we haven't spoken In ages. I feel incredibly lonely. I've been single practically my whole life. I've learned a lot about myself. And overall generally I'm happy with who I am. I just wish someone would love and care for me and share intamacy with like holding hands pat on the back etc. I feel like I'll be single forever no one will want me. All my friends are so dependent on their bfs for happiness.

I can really relate to this, I'm pretty shy too yet I yearn for intimacy. This might sound awfully glib, but as far as intimacy goes, start with this moment - whatever you're experiencing right now, whether it's loneliness, sadness, frustration, or anything else, be with it the way you'd be with a partner with whom you're in love. Be vulnerable, be open, be receptive, with whatever you're feeling

[Uma]

I'm almost 24 and have pretty much been single my whole life.

Your whole life has barely begun! Every day is a new clean page to write on it whatever you want! Be happy single. Be happy not single. Life will bring partners and take them away and bring new ones and take them away. It is just waves on the ocean.

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[Patrycia-Rose]

When I was 24 I made the mistake of thinking I was ‘on the shelf’ and married the first man who showed any interest. I thought I was in love and knew what love was but I didn’t. We got married but it was over in six months. Fortunately, I got out before we had kids. Then I moved into a flat on my own and discovered what life was all about – being on my own. I just loved it! I’ve lived on my own ever since and the older I get the more I appreciate my own space. So many people think they have to be in a relationship to be happy – and nothing could be further from the truth. Be happy with who and what you are first.