Getting on for 20 years ago I met up with a married couple who quickly became dear friends. I loved those guys dearly and although we came at matters from very different directions we shared a love of spirit. I learned a very great deal from my time with these wonderful individuals. One interesting idea - and I hope readers will agree relevant - was how their spirit contacts took care of them both, even to the extent of advising about nutrition and general health.
I was impressed because such spirit aspects were new to me. My friends would be told what foods they should eat or avoid depending on their immediate and longer-term nutritional needs - if they were working hard, traveling, under physical stress etc. I was impressed but wondered if that was really the province of spirit helpers. Nonetheless I could see no harm in the advice offered and readily accepted by my friends.
In time, though, simple advice turned into something less beneficial, more controlling. (as it appeared to me) For a time I avoided airing my concerns because I saw it as no business of mine. I did not feel it appropriate for me to question the way they accepted the 'advice' of these spirit individuals. I've now deliberately changed and used a different term - 'spirit individuals' - because I was losing confidence about their being
spirit helpers.
A little later, though, I felt that as a good friend I could express my concerns about the way some pretty basic things in their lives were being controlled. One of the pair agreed with me and she had also begun to doubt but her husband was totally against any concerns being expressed.
Long story short I heard some time later from the wife that their seemingly wonderful, spirit-blessed marriage had folded and they had divorced. I was totally surprised and very shocked but their separation wasn't down solely to the influence of their former spirit supporters. I later learned about other spirit-influenced issues which confirmed I'd been right to harbor concerns.
Those are the bare bones of the story and the rest is personal. What I did take from my experiences with this lovely couple is that one should be equally cautious about being guided too much by the ideas of incarnates and discarnates alike.
blessings