Sure, we can say there are no mistakes, only experiences
But I do remember some of the wise advices from some old members in here, even from when I was just embarking on my journey with crystals 5 years ago, that I should be careful with crystals and that sometimes they can also do 'harm
' and not always just good. This 'harm
' in our context does not mean necessarily bad and negative in the classic sense, but perhaps a 'wrong choice
', in a somewhat self-misleading way.
For example someone who may have certain problems which are created exactly because of being very ungrounded, has lots of ideas but with poor manifestation, that person may use even more ungrounding crystals to obtain even more insight on top of other insights and leading to a train of forever good insights that never become more than just that - thoughts, as good and enlightening as they may be, they pop like soda bubbles with no purpose. Therefore, the person picks a high vibration crystal which may nurture and stabilize the emotion of the person, but it would not help to manifest and fix the root problem, and if it does bring awareness to it, the awareness cannot be sustain on a grounded level of manifestation. On the other hand, if that person would use a grounding stone and improve the issues associated with lower chakras, become grounded and go from no manifestation to manifestation to instant manifestation of ideas and thoughts, well that is a good choice and use of crystals.
Continuing on this idea, the high vibration crystals are useful indeed, however it can keep someone running in circles for months and years. The same way, even grounding crystals of a lower vibration, they might keep somebody in a loop doing the same old thing, manifesting all day and what not, but always not being able to see more than his tunnel vision - then when this person highly grounded begins to use a higher vibration crystal and obtain powerful insights, he can actually manifest them in a healthy way.
But it is not so white and black, there are many shades in between.
It is more complex than this I believe. If someone is in a lot of emotional pain, regardless of being grounded or ungrounded, sometimes a good high vibration crystal can nurture and soothe the pain, giving time to recover and bring some clarity to the issue. For another person in the same position, a grounding crystal may bring protective energies and shield against toxicity of others of one's self.
In the end, we learn as we walk our own path. From all of my experience, there is one thing I noticed that is an unshakable truth and guide - the intuition. If we cultivate it and learn to listen it, it can be our best guide in life, including the use of crystals and any other aspect in our life. Sometimes when I don't know which crystal to use for my need in a particular case, I listen to my intuition and can clearly sense what feels as the right pick.