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Originally Posted by Ladyrose92
Because I feel so conflicted with my love life. I desire that deep unconditional love but I do not know if it’s with my current partner, something that will build over time, which is what I hope for as we have a great connection with each other. Or if there is something or someone more that would be a deeper love.
I always think about an ex that I still love and always will. It’s not a fanciful thing. I wonder if they are who I am supposed to be with. But at the same time, if not, I don’t want to jeopardise the family that I have.
I’ve also grown up around abusive narcissistic people for family and I doubt my judgement. Is the person I’m with the right relationship for me and the bad is part of life, what we need to grow and what a real relationship is. Or are they things I shouldn’t be putting up with and the right person, as in the ultimate love, wouldn’t treat me that way in the first place.
It’s tough, I wish I just knew what was what.
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Soul connections, and even a twinflame is not all rainbows, and sunshine. It's growth, and most of the time, that growth occurs through pain, and hurt. A connection like that is not always for the faint of heart, so always be careful for what you wish for. If you are not ready, or done enough healing in your life, that will roll into the relationship, and can become magnified as you are forced to confront it.
That said, unconditional love does not need to come from only a twin flame, or even a soul connection. If you are in a relationship where the love is not freely given, or you have to earn it to have it. You have to do X,Y, Z to have it. Then you need to really think long and hard about your relationship, as it may not support you or your highest good.
It's a tricky question to answer, if so and so is the right person for you. As the right person can be the wrong person if it helped you become the better version of yourself. We as humans are kind of dumb that way.
If you find yourself in a bad relationship, that may not be feeding you emotionally, or is abusive, toxic, then you should think about where you are at in your life, and if that is the space you need to be in. Understand your own needs, and your own boundaries as well.
So, my suggestion, don't focus too much of the type of person you want in your life. Be with those, and around those, who match what it is that you do want from life, and that you put out. If they are not matching it, then you may have a better understanding of your own path. Love yourself enough to know what you do, and don't deserve and go from there.
Be honest, and truthful with yourself. And with others. Perhaps they can understand where you are coming from, and are willing to grow with you. Or you've had those conversations and nothing changes. If so, you have a better understanding of your life and self.