Spirit says be Authentic - than people hate you

[JustBe]

Originally Posted by Green.Heals

Please don't ask me to go within, if you're annoyed by my posts, than just skip this.

I have been meditating & a lot more has been coming to me, & it has been helpful, but I still go outside myself to have it confirmed. That is going to take some time to fix, it is a work in progress. Please don't hound me.


I don't understand why spirit/God/Universe/Divine Love says to be Authentic, speak your truth, don't hold back, don't hide who you are, & when you do, everything comes crumbling down. I don't know how to speak my truth without people running away from me! How to do it in an "easy" or "gentle" manner...I just got it. Easy & Gentle.


I don't know why I seemed to have become so broken in life. I was older when I was younger, I'm exhausted.

People want the alcohol, but they don't want to talk about the mental health.

They want the bad food, but complain about the disorders.

People get riffed so easily & than all of a sudden, it's game over.

They say they understand you're fleeing from abuse, but than breech your trust. I don't get it, how do the two even coincide.

Spirit says, go shine your light, but why? Just to be hated some more. No I'm good thanks.

Shining your light doesn’t mean you have to tell others anything.

Who assigned the role you have to correct others?

You of course.

That’s not all of you. I’m sure their is plenty more if you in you to share.

To me, part of spiritual development has been remembering what caused me to wake up - the social conditioning, expectations, conventions and so on about which I asked many questions, and discovering the tricks used to try to make me toe the line. Easy for me on the one hand - I didn't have a comfortable pre-teen life so got to stand on my own feet quite early. But that meant alienation in school once I started to get involved with the supernatural! I did pal up with a couple of classmates on the same 'quest'! but we were branded the weirdos.

Point is, as over the years I became closer to my Self, (more 'authentic' in your terms?) I was able to manipulate so I could interface with what the unawakened call 'normal'.

You could argue that that makes me a fake. You could even be right. But it means that in isolation (or nearly so) I can act and feel as I like while still appearing to be part of the social milieu in which I need to work and live. The common expression is 'I pay lip service'.

It's difficult to "act naturally" until you get to know a little about who you're with. One has to be diplomatic. No need to look within - be yourself as best you can while estimating the people you're with. We all have different opinions and ways and levels of tolerance for others.

Usually we soon discover the level of commonality we have with someone. If it doesn't amount to much back away.
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[PMPM71]

If you say what you think in a descent and calm way its the other person fault if they don't like it. And most people wont like it and will accuse you of things they project. Its common human psychology that we are most avoidant and rejectful to truth of ourselves or others.

You have to accept it and either distance from those who don't accept you speaking your mind or just don't value them as much to be bothered by it.

[ameliorate]

Here's a good website to develop our authenticity.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/b...thentic-person

Originally Posted by Lorelyen

To me, part of spiritual development has been remembering what caused me to wake up - the social conditioning, expectations, conventions and so on about which I asked many questions, and discovering the tricks used to try to make me toe the line. Easy for me on the one hand - I didn't have a comfortable pre-teen life so got to stand on my own feet quite early. But that meant alienation in school once I started to get involved with the supernatural! I did pal up with a couple of classmates on the same 'quest'! but we were branded the weirdos.

Point is, as over the years I became closer to my Self, (more 'authentic' in your terms?) I was able to manipulate so I could interface with what the unawakened call 'normal'.

You could argue that that makes me a fake. You could even be right. But it means that in isolation (or nearly so) I can act and feel as I like while still appearing to be part of the social milieu in which I need to work and live. The common expression is 'I pay lip service'.

It's difficult to "act naturally" until you get to know a little about who you're with. One has to be diplomatic. No need to look within - be yourself as best you can while estimating the people you're with. We all have different opinions and ways and levels of tolerance for others.

Usually we soon discover the level of commonality we have with someone. If it doesn't amount to much back away.
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I was one of the weirdos too. I was so much of one that I was a single band weirdo !

I grew in similar conditions as yours. You couldn't always be yourself because it was a matter of survival. I know that very well. Not the exact same background, but if you break down the conditions, it was not very different.

What I'm saying is, in adulthood, I decided to go full on myself, instead of first seizing others. You can do both at a time. Then again, based on where you live, social interactions may be taken very seriously. It is another way of protecting myself, simply being myself. And yes, clichés and the rest can and will strike back. As if being yourself is striking someone !

It can be, we all have clichés deep down in our systems. We're bombarded with them.

What I wanted to tell you above all, is that people are capable of rising above. Above all the clichés. A lot of people can, actually. You'd be really surprised.

Look, all I'm saying is, I wish, someday, somehow, to see you post somewhere that you tried, to go above, and that it was a good surprise. You have it in you. I'm sure you hate those, but it's not like they can be avoided !

Be well

What I wrote there may have been for Lorelyen, but it can apply to anyone. Just try to be yourself, even just show a tiny small quirk. And yes, sometimes you'll be disappointed. But not everytime. And the glory, even just for trying, you'll feel glorious, and free. That's the important part, the rest is secondary gals and guys.