Twinsouls & Soulmates do women relate to the concept more ?

[VanillaRayne]

Originally Posted by H:O:R:A:C:E

Your post is nice, I like it. But I don't understand parts of it.
When a man loves, he LOVES...how is that a problem??
Also, though I maintain plausible deniability to direct knowledge of it, it seems that TRUE love brings with it the realization that it can never be lost.
Across ten-thousand years, through countless re-incarnations, once established, isn't "true love" eternal and undeniable??
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Thanks.

I'm not saying it's a problem. I think it's a beautiful thing. I was just pointing it out. But my fault if it came across otherwise.

And yeah of course that realization would be attained -- if one is spiritually aware. However, for the countless men who don't believe in spiritual matters, or aren't sure what to believe, true love could be very scary because to them there would be no guarantees and it could be taken away at any moment.

Originally Posted by VanillaRayne

However, for the countless men who don't believe in spiritual matters, or aren't sure what to believe, true love could be very scary because to them there would be no guarantees and it could be taken away at any moment.

The underlined words are exactly why men fear intimacy and love. They believe that love could be taken away at any moment resulting in a HUGE loss. The reason for this is they believe love is something that is received when in fact true love is something that is generated from within yourself and can never be taken away by anyone other than yourself. A loved one passes over to the other side doesn't change the fact that you can still have love for them. A relationship ends doesn't alter the fact that you can still love them even if they aren't returning the love or desire to share a physical life with you anymore.

[alamode]

Originally Posted by BeautifulLife

A relationship ends doesn't alter the fact that you can still love them even if they aren't returning the love or desire to share a physical life with you anymore.

Isn't that still a "huge" loss though, if you aren't "receiving" romantic love and parental bonding love anymore? I'm fairly certain that I caused this to my ex-husband/ father of my daughter, as I don't feel anything for him anymore. I feel for him just as I would do any other normal person, like say all of my co-workers. Romantic love is gone. Marriage/partnership/parental bonds of love are gone. Those are huge losses.... something that I'm not upset or emotional about over cutting the ties with him but I'm sure he feels very upset and emotional over it.

Originally Posted by alamode

Isn't that still a "huge" loss though, if you aren't "receiving" romantic love and parental bonding love anymore? I'm fairly certain that I caused this to my ex-husband/ father of my daughter, as I don't feel anything for him anymore. I feel for him just as I would do any other normal person, like say all of my co-workers. Romantic love is gone. Marriage/partnership/parental bonds of love are gone. Those are huge losses.... something that I'm not upset or emotional about over cutting the ties with him but I'm sure he feels very upset and emotional over it.

They are only loses when you lack self love because you than become dependent on others to provide you with the love you desire. The pain come from being attached to another and than having them sever that attachment not from them pulling away a love that was never real to begin with. Romantic love comes and goes but only if it isn't true love. If it was true love it would never cease to exist. But to have true love you need to have that love radiate from within not seek it externally.

[H:O:R:A:C:E]

Originally Posted by alamode

Isn't that still a "huge" loss though, if you aren't "receiving" romantic love and parental bonding love anymore? I'm fairly certain that I caused this to my ex-husband/ father of my daughter, as I don't feel anything for him anymore. I feel for him just as I would do any other normal person, like say all of my co-workers. Romantic love is gone. Marriage/partnership/parental bonds of love are gone. Those are huge losses.... something that I'm not upset or emotional about over cutting the ties with him but I'm sure he feels very upset and emotional over it.

This is a difficult idea for me to share, because it is so contrary to the "common-sense" awareness of most people, most of the time:
The past does not create the present.
What IS, is NOW.
The past is a construct of the mind; a way to make sense of things.
We are "projecting" when we attribute greater meaning and 'expression' into the past. We have the "full-measure" of love present with us now.
We experience loss when we expel a portion of affection and place it into memories or unreachable timelines.
The process is not "wrong", but it isn't "true" either.

Well, if both of them have found themselves as 'true twins', then there should not be any difference in the level of relating.

[psychoslice]

I think women but not all women, are more emotional and therefore seem to show more interest, men are more into thinking and understanding the concept, they don't fall into the emotional side of things as women do, now this dosen't mean one is better than the other, for this way of thinking is childish, what is needed is a balance between the two, there are men who are more gentle than women, they are more feminine, that is in energy, then there are women who are more masculine, again that is more towards masculine energy.