Please do not be offensive to me or anyone else in my presence

[essvass]

Originally Posted by MIND POWER

... its a very calming place....

Me personally i have been involved in some confrontations, but i must admit they have mostly all been in part my fault! (And i do remember being given subtle advise warning me).

I may say things and then i don't back down, and that's not going to change! (And that stance can lead to explosion, so i just don't bother with certain subjects).

I don't think your opening post is threatening, you just seem sensitive that's all! sometimes in a open forum, people must prepare for people that have totally different perceptions and ideologies.

Again if it upsets you just ignore it! block them out! and don't waste your energy. #simple.

I will be subtle with you.

Thank you! It is a calming place and I'd like to be able to be here too. I hope we'll talk sometime about some interesting subject and I am not asking for you to be more tame or subtle. I am not asking to be treated with kid gloves. I just want it to be civil.

I would like to discuss the thread issues and talk to the person who started the thread rather than learning how I am writing and doing everything wrong, and not in a "your mama" kind of way.

"don't waste your energy. #simple." sounds good and I am sorry about wasting everyone's time. Thank you.

[essvass]

Originally Posted by ocean breeze

No, i don't go out of my way to be rude but i know i have offended people on the forums. I've been blocked/foed on a few forums along with having my post deleted by mods. I just really wish people would confront me about it so i can at least know why and that whatever issues they have can be resolved not suppressed. This is why i disagree when mods close threads because of drama (unless it gets way out of control which i've yet to see on here). Not everyone is going to get along and that is fine. Sometimes people need to duke it out with words giving them a chance to resolve the issue rather than suppressing it and carrying that resentment between each other.

Thank you, ocean breeze, "resolved not suppressed" sounds good. I totally agree with you here. I don't know about closing threads -- I am not really a forum person. This is my first one in a long time. I don't like "carrying that resentment", either -- so this is how I decided to resolve this -- probably not the best way possible. Thank you for talking to me.

[essvass]

Originally Posted by linen53

essvass, I learned a long time ago to walk away. I tell people I am here to state my beliefs, not to argue them or defend them. And yes, there are a very few members who will try to bait you into an argument. I just put them on ignore. I'm here to have fun not to put up with bullies.

Linen53, thank you for sharing your approach. I don't think I mind arguments. I think I mind personality attacks.

[linen53]

I consider both to be the same. Zero tolerance.

[Miss Hepburn]

Your original post sounds perfect....ok....

[linen53]

That means I get ignored alot but I just chuckle

[essvass]

Originally Posted by Miss Hepburn

Your original post sounds perfect....ok....

Thank you, Miss Hepburn, MIND POWER, ocean breeze, linen53 and everyone.

I got the healing and resolution I needed after that very unpleasant episode, although initially I thought that acting on impulse I just made a fool of myself.

I realize that it is silly to need healing because of whatever someone else is saying to/about you. Yet, it was important for me to do something about how I felt.

In the future, I will resort to ignoring and chuckling. Thanks and blessings

[Shrek]

As Miss Hepburn said, perfect.
After reading your reply, I guess you can defense yourself well if someone do offense to you.
Rude people only unhappy people, ignoring is best I think.

[Faith33]

Yes, essvass...ignore and chuckle...it's the best remedy there is:)

I've been in your shoes once and also acted upon impulse, felt really foolish after the fact, but I must admit, it was one of the best lessons ever learned.

You're here to learn and have a positive experience....let no one take that away from you.

[essvass]

Originally Posted by Shen.Y

As Miss Hepburn said, perfect.
After reading your reply, I guess you can defense yourself well if someone do offense to you.
Rude people only unhappy people, ignoring is best I think.

Thank you, Shen Y,

I guess this is the best way to see this kind of situations and I will try to make this understanding my own.

Cheers,