Okay, well
sesheta, a whole week went by and I didn't hear from my bf at all. I was with my two best friends and told them about it and they were like, "That is so odd that he could not even text you a 'hello'." I felt hurt and embarrassed in a way at the same time. So when I finally was able to see him, I told him this and he look visibly hurt himself. He apologized and said that he feels bad that I experienced that. Then he said he was going to try and figure out why he is "treating me so bad."
It is kind of scary cause it has been only 7 months of us dating and you can't imagine the honeymoon stage being this far over already and it's not like we have been together for years.
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Originally Posted by froebellian
All I can say from my experience when you 'try to make it work' in the early stages then it is not 'worth it' as you will 'try constantly' and thats not how it should be IMHO.
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Yeah, I have heard the same thing. People always say that relationships shouldn't be hard work or stressful.
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Originally Posted by CelestialRain
Have you tried having a deep, sit-down conversation with him? Often times, "this is who I am" is a mental excuse to try to drive away from the relationship (not trying to worry you or anything). Maybe you should tell him that HE should also accept YOU and that YOU need to talk more often than he does.
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Wow, I never thought of it like that! Good point! That ties in with what
KrystalleSama was saying-- that is a compromise and that being in a relationship is different.
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Originally Posted by primrose
Altair, I know this is hard to hear but it does'nt sound like he is into you. It sounds like he takes you for granted. If you can don't contact him at all and see if anything happens.
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Yeah, I already thought that and fear that. But I would rather have him admit that so we can do the appropriate action and move on. There have been times that I do think he is taking advantage of me. He respects his friends more than me and I just sent him a text message about this and did mention what you just said about feeling being taken advantage of cause I am like 'why do I think and care about you, but you don't about me?' I haven't heard from him at all and sent those messages last night and it has been a day. I will be seeing him tonight so something is going to happen.
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SpiritCarrier: Thank you soooooo much for your advice! Those are very important questions and I keep hoping, you know. I keep hoping things will change, but I do realize I have to really be honest with myself and ask: Can I live like this? I think I do need some time away and think on things.
Yeah, I do turn to my friends for advice and though they are helpful, it does affect things cause they are biased and they don't want to see me hurt. It does come down to what
awakenflame. I have to think is this for me. And yes there are times I feel like I might as well just settle and I know DONT do that.
Thank you guys. I will keep you updated if you are interested. Like I said, I will be seeing him tonight.