neg surroundings how do I transform into a positive being.

[michaelj1981]

The last two months more so the last month, I've been trying to have a more positive outlook, as well as a mentality. However when I try I seem to attack neg people more so certain family that I have to deal with. One more so then another. She is consumed with money, thinks always the worst in situations and people. She then assumes the worst in me by inventing victticious perceptions about me and stats it. Its to the point when we talk on the phone I get in a bad mood and my mind is stressed out and all I can do is be in her state of being almost. Right now I really want to focus on being positive about life think of good things about people and so im trying to keep things to the min with her. Any ideas suggestions. How do u transform around such negative people

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[psychoslice]

If you have negative surroundings, then move away from there, families can be very toxic, but you don't need to drink their poison.

[Emvee]

I live with a difficult family member too. Ever since this family member has moved in with us, she has brought all of her problems into the house & I can't help but somehow get affected. I used to be very at peace at home but now I can't help but feel negativity and anger. I agree with the poster above, it's best to just move away. That's what I'm planning to do. I plan on cutting all contacts with this person. Right now we live under the same roof but we don't stay in the same room. We just ignore each other because if we do stay in the same room..Things will get ugly.

Blessed be the challenges and resistances in this universe for they make us stronger and give us the power to take on greater yet challenges with ease and calm.

When you can not remove yourself, you may wish to try these three questions, doesn't matter how you answer, attempt to repeat until the feelings dissipate:

1. Could I accept the negativity I witnessed even as it is within me?
2. Would I let go this thing I am holding in my clenched fist? (while making making a fist then opening the fingers)
3. Could I forgive the effects of choosing the path of forgiveness and release?

As for prevention, you could attempt to contemplation on these three ideas:
1. All I see was in the past, it is gone and no longer has reality.
2. I am that which I intend and my intent is clearly directed from my heart.
3. All that is, is as it should be, as I fight that I place my will above it, I am pained only by this resistance.

Good luck!

Originally Posted by michaelj1981

The last two months more so the last month, I've been trying to have a more positive outlook, as well as a mentality. However when I try I seem to attack neg people more so certain family that I have to deal with. One more so then another. She is consumed with money, thinks always the worst in situations and people. She then assumes the worst in me by inventing victticious perceptions about me and stats it. Its to the point when we talk on the phone I get in a bad mood and my mind is stressed out and all I can do is be in her state of being almost. Right now I really want to focus on being positive about life think of good things about people and so im trying to keep things to the min with her. Any ideas suggestions. How do u transform around such negative people

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Hello!!!! It sounds to me as if this person is a pshychic vampire. If you protect yourself from their negative energy then they will not drain you with it. It takes practice but you can do it.

[Sojourner2013]

Whatever you do, don't pray for peace! LOL I have a good friend who runs a development circle, and she said the funniest thing about not praying for patience as you will get trial after trial that will test your patience. It's true, too! Anyways, I had a similar experience about what you described. Bottomline is you can't get to positive-thinking until you pass through peace. Strive to have peace first. I wear a rubberband and when I feel like a fight (argument, criticism, etc), I snap the rubberband on my wrist as hard as I can and say to myself, "Peace is possible." May sound dumb to some, but it works. Or you can say some other simple phrase to remind you to CULTIVATE a peaceful environment around YOU (don't worry about the others, just you). Once you cultivate peace around you adequately, you will see that the positive thoughts will come naturally. And stay away as much as possible those individuals that you know like to fight. Peace is not on their agenda.

[Mr Interesting]

Originally Posted by Conaeolos

Blessed be the challenges and resistances in this universe for they make us stronger and give us the power to take on greater yet challenges with ease and calm.

When you can not remove yourself, you may wish to try these three questions, doesn't matter how you answer, attempt to repeat until the feelings dissipate:

1. Could I accept the negativity I witnessed even as it is within me?
2. Would I let go this thing I am holding in my clenched fist? (while making making a fist then opening the fingers)
3. Could I forgive the effects of choosing the path of forgiveness and release?

As for prevention, you could attempt to contemplation on these three ideas:
1. All I see was in the past, it is gone and no longer has reality.
2. I am that which I intend and my intent is clearly directed from my heart.
3. All that is, is as it should be, as I fight that I place my will above it, I am pained only by this resistance.

Good luck!

This wants repeating 'cause it's all right here. Learn these and remeber them and set them within your awareness until they are your common sense.