double messages

[pasc345]

I am experiencing a weird situation. I had a weird relationship with a man. Now people give me hints.. Like talking about marriage or showing rings or showing babies. But when i confront them directly about this..they lie and pretsnd they dont understand.
What should i do.. I am a prisoner in this situation.

[Squatchit]

Maybe they aren't lying. Have you considered that you might be reading too much into things?

[Adrienne]

one is only a prisoner by choice, you have to power to make choices.

You speak about a weird relationship with a man. (heavens, I suppose we've all had those). But then you go on talking about men in the plural. Then, if I've read you right, your gestures are probably telling them that you're more interested in yourself, marrying (which for some women is effectively a rite of passage) and having a family than you are in them for themselves. Confronting them with these ideas could well put them on the defensive.
Some girls likewise want to distance themselves from men who expect domesticity.

It's really important to get to know a man first and find out if he's interested in a long term hook-up before trying to prompt him about babies and marriage.

As Adrienne said, you can release yourself from this apparent prison.


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