Is love really just one person?

[ReturningMoon]

Hi everyone. I think the twin flame concept is true but I also think it's limiting. There's the idea that your twin flame is the one you're going to marry and that's the only person for you. I have found that you can have many attractions in the world. You can have many people who you desire and desire you back in some way or purpose. These partners may be what are referred to as "soulmates" rather than "twin flames." I think the point is if you're only limiting yourself to this one "twin flame" it isn't usually healthy/good for that relationship.
Has anyone else found this too?

[Gem]

Just an opinion, albeit a strong opinion, but the twin flame narrative is a nonsense story, but as a regular person, I prefer monogamy because it's an exclusive relationship and the boundaries are clear. I think once you start with the polyamory thing, you never really know where you stand, you might be getting slops, and because poly people are sleeping around with 2 or more partners, there's all these diseases to worry about.

[Native spirit]

I would have to agree with Gem


Namaste

[charly233]

It seems to me that some people are drawn more towards monogamy whilst others are more polyamerous. People are socially conditioned into being monogamous and polyamerous people are subject to stigmatisation and oppression. This is unjust and unfair. Monogamous people and polyamerous people should be free to express their sexuality without prejudice or discrimination.

[Gem]

Originally Posted by charly233

It seems to me that some people are drawn more towards monogamy whilst others are more polyamerous. People are socially conditioned into being monogamous and polyamerous people are subject to stigmatisation and oppression. This is unjust and unfair. Monogamous people and polyamerous people should be free to express their sexuality without prejudice or discrimination.

If a guy gives reasons like I did, there's a rationale behind why monogamy is preferable, so don't write it off as if it's mindless conformity and conditioning. If you want more than one partner, what me worry? I mean, even better, because I could sleep with your girlfriend as well, except I prefer monogamy (for reasons I gave).

[Redchic12]

Yeah I have agree with Gem.

It’s hard enough learning to get on with one person, never mind two or three!

Personally I don’t believe in all this twin flame stuff, I think it’s just fantasy. But obviously that’s just my opinion.

Statistics/consensus and other research shows that we generally have three partners in life. The first one is in our younger years eg teens to twenties to have a good time with. The second one we generally choose someone different to marry/de facto and have children with and the third one we choose to share our later years with.

That seems to be the trend and has been for quite awhile now. But as we all know, that won’t apply to everyone, but generally speaking, it seems to be the case.

The latest research on relationships also shows that many many more people are CHOOSING to live alone in later years.

[OldChap]

Originally Posted by Redchic12

The latest research on relationships also shows that many many more people are CHOOSING to live alone in later years.

Interesting.

Duality serves to help us learn to work in cooperation and unity, instead of being divided.

One of the reasons for having male and female genders is for us to learn that together in marriage we could do a lot more than individually. Also for us to be less harsh and judgmental, becoming softer and more compassionate humans more able to cohabitate in peace.

After all, love unites never divides.

Understandably, for many reasons that some people at any age would want to be living alone by choice. Sometimes clues can be found in what we had done in past lifetimes.

This human adventure is truly amazing. Never boring!

[charly233]

Originally Posted by Gem

so don't write it off as if it's mindless conformity and conditioning.

Sorry I didn't mean to write monogamy off. It works for many people. I was just stating that monogamy is the socially acceptable norm. Non monogamous people who don't fit in with this norm may face oppression and discrimination. This doesn't mean that monogamous people are mindless. In a way they are lucky because their natural inclinations fit the norm which makes life easier.

In a similar way heterosexual people are lucky because they don't have to handle the hassles and abuse that being gay often entails.

[Gem]

Originally Posted by charly233

In a way they are lucky because their natural inclinations fit the norm which makes life easier. In a similar way heterosexual people are lucky because they don't have to handle the hassles and abuse that being gay often entails.

I guess people are abusive, and get abused, in their own ways, but as far as I can tell the days of gay discrimination are well and truly behind us. Nowdays no one cares if feminists and lesbians are accused and abused by trans activists, who seem to be having their day in the sun right now. That will change in time, too, and someone else like maybe Jews, who are copping it lately, or maybe white men, will become the 'unprotected class' next. I have noticed being a white hetero male is not like it used to be, and what used to be normal in society is no longer socially acceptable. I'm pushing 60 now, so I've seen things change and come and go, and you learn to go with the flow and just roll with it after a while.

Maybe non-monogamous women have a rougher time than men, but I think that's normal, ingrained in nature. because women have the babies, and it's all genetics and evolutionary survival from there.

I think the narrative that is about socially constructed norms is good, because that's a thing, but one can't pretend that nature has a big part to play in it as well.

[JustBe]

Originally Posted by ReturningMoon

Hi everyone. I think the twin flame concept is true but I also think it's " I think the point is if you're only limiting yourself to this one "twin flame" it isn't usually healthy/good for that relationship.
Has anyone else found this too?

Yes.

Like all relationships, the labels simply describe the connection and opening it bears inside you. Humans tend to create meaning according to how something feels. If it’s an intense connection or activates deep layers that are deeply personal or only shown to those we feel safe around, then we apply a label or give it meaning through such terms as ‘twin flame’ . We are all connected as life here in earth and these streams we relate too, are simply opening us deeper to ourselves to know this. Separation creates skewed ideas about what’s ‘missing’. But when you no longer feel you’re missing something, there is only life to breathe in and out. Life all around you to relate and connect too.

In saying this, there will always be close connections that you feel closer too, but even so clinging or making those be more than what they are as connections, is really the mind deciding what it all means beyond what essentially is, your own connection forming through what is as it is. Everything is reflecting exactly what you need to become more aware of yourself and all life.