Do you think you can 'learn' to love?

[Miss Hepburn]

Well, I might have made progress. :)
(I forgot about this thread!)

I'm not hurt, mad, disgusted, disappointed any longer in these specific people.
I feel more, like, disinterest in them. That's way better, for me, anyway;
disinterested in their particular Journey in life. (Accepting is also a good word.)

Sure, I don't care to hang out with certain people that are unkind, insensitive
to people in need...or whatever other things that are 'just not nice or right'.
(Opening a door for an older person with bags is ''right'' - that's what I mean, in ANY culture....that kind of 'right'.)

I think leaving them alone - moving away from them is 'ok'. Simply understanding they have their own
Journey is as close as I may get regarding 'Love' and just respecting their process this life....away from me.
It still was good to talk about this here. Thank you all, for giving me your ideas. :)

[Starman]

Not everyone learns in the same way, and in my opinion, most people do not know what they need to learn. My initial spiritual experiences taught me how to be free inside of myself and until then I did not know that such a freedom existed. I found an ever increasing love in inner freedom.

Learning for me has been mainly about undoing conditioning which I gathered from my family growing up, the military, school including college, etc. The conditioning which I allowed, mostly out of ignorance, the world, culture, etc., to impose on me. Conditioning which restricted my ability to love.

The saying is that learning is lifelong but there are those who say that they are “stuck in their ways,” or that “you can’t teach an old dog new tricks,” etc. Learning requires an open mind and an open heart. Learning is like stepping stones which build to an ongoing greater path. In my opinion that includes learning to love. For me it began with learning to love and appreciate myself.

[FairyCrystal]

Originally Posted by Miss Hepburn

....was to 'teach' me or open my heart to love; not to be loving, that comes naturally when you feel love in your heart.

Actually Abe Hicks said that feeling self-love -which is feeling love in your heart- is often difficult for us and that it thus is better and easier to focus on being love.
Which is the other way round than what you say above...
And I do feel what Abe says resonates. But then it's not being loving as you can kinda fake that. It's truly being Love.
I always feel the best way to get to that higher vibration of being is to ask yourself regularly "what would an Angel do/feel?"
Or "What would Love do?"
That tends too immediately shift your vibration, unless you're truly 'far gone', haha.

Originally Posted by Miss Hepburn

For those that are just these angelic, loving types, naturally nurturing to others - well, they've learned it!

A lot of people act and seem loving and caring and nurturing, but deep down they are actually doing this so they don't have to deal with their own issues.
Often such people need to be needed (low self-esteem etc.).
So not all people that seem to be loving and naturally nurturing also have an open Heart.

Originally Posted by Miss Hepburn

How does a person learn to love? I suppose by others being truly loving to them?

In essence I think so, yes. But if not mistaken there's also all kinds of neurotransmitters and hormones involved.
I'm not 100% certain, but I vaguely recall in very rare cases someone lacks these substances and is incapable of feeling love of any kind. No compassion, nothing.
But normally I think it begins with baby & mother. Mother cares for baby due to mostly oxytocin, the bonding hormone, released during breastfeeding amongst other things so she doesn't just leave her baby to die.
And babies in utero can already pick up on feelings of love, again via hormones etc.

Originally Posted by Miss Hepburn

It was said by someone on the Other Side that ''His Divine Love was the only thing that transforms a human soul.''

getting to a very high vibration would do that. You don't have to be religious for it. I mean, look at what Joe Dispenza's method does for thousands of people!
It's all about raising your own vibration.

Originally Posted by Miss Hepburn

So he said with all the power he had in him he encouraged us to ask for the Father's Divine Love....lemme tellya...esp the first time?
It is very humbling..

You can only receive a high vibration when yours is in the very vicinity of it. If the gap is to great you cannot receive.

Originally Posted by Miss Hepburn

I do feel people that were raised with love and affection find it easier to feel and show love. (I was not raised that way, at all.)

I agree with this, although I do believe it's in human nature to be loving, affection etc.
And logical as we are group people, not hermits, and in order to keep our place in a community we had to be wired to be able to love, care for, and so on.
Without that innate ability our species wouldn't have survived.
But to have less issues with having an open heart, feeling true self-love and so on, yes it's important to be reared with that.
Nevertheless along the way to adulthood things can happen that change that...

My two cents :)

[Miss Hepburn]

Hi! I appreciate everyone's ideas, Thank you, but I'm done, I think.
I'd like to close up shop. :)