How to break away from dysfunctional family?

#1 03-10-2010, 09:32 PM

I've just started to step down from my role as the family Scapegoat, and I'm getting away from them. This is really hard. But they're toxic, and I need to break free! How?

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Silver · #2 03-10-2010, 09:35 PM

It would be most helpful for you to describe a very basic diagram of the family dynamics. Who plays what role and key roles, etc. Do you mean break free as in emotionally/mentally or both that and to physically leave the premises/home?

#3 04-10-2010, 12:45 AM

i am very interested in this topic, as i too am the scapegoat in my family and other situations. i understand that somehow (unconsciously) i am filling this role.

part of it for me is that i bring up stuff the family does not wish to deal with . . . and there is also a power differential involved with this kind of abuse . . .those who scapgoat have the power of numbers and the scapegoat is only one person.

i think it would be helpful to look at the story of the scapegoat . . .

i look forward to hearing from people about how to stop this pattern . . . i love my family and want to be part of it . . . and don't want to occupy the role of scapegoat any lomger.