When the time is right. . .

I don't think we should force relationships to last a lifetime. I've seen it all around me growing up and still do. Unhappy marriages and people stuck learning the same lessons all their lives. It's a bit of a trap, because it's so painful to break up, and painful to be alone. We may deep down really want to be alone, but when we end the relationship, the ego bites, "alone again, despair!" So we get back in the trap, because the pain was too much.

The last relationship I was in was like a gift from God. My partner was some kind of soul connection. But we were meant to be together for the time we were, it was a necessary journey, a lesson. We helped each other through appalling times, then shared a fairytale like adventure together, awoke spiritually together. I knew it wasn't meant to last forever, in fact it couldn't have.

I have been in pain wondering how I'm going to end it for some time, so worried about it yet knowing the relationship can't go on. This weekend, I thought to myself, I must end it. I just didn't know how, I didn't want to break her heart. I didn't believe in God when I met her, but I asked God for help. You know what? She actually had decided to end it herself this weekend too. Crazy isn't it? 3 and a half years.

Of course the pain is there. I also don't know if I'll ever want to be in a relationship again. It seems so senseless to me. It's like a contract, and the contract says: "I can't live life by myself, it's too painful and lonely, let's both become one person so we can share the burden of life" Of course that comes with rules and a sacrifice of a lot of freedom.

And the bliss we're looking for, we sometimes find at the beginning of a relationship, that wholeness or completion. It doesn't last forever, because we found it outside of us. We must find it inside of us. But if we remain in a co-dependent relationship we get distracted from ever finding it within, because we don't face the loneliness and pain and go inward.

It's a funny old game we play. Life aint easy.

Peace,

I am sorry that you are feeling so down about the relationship right now.

This stage will pass and you would love to be in a loving long-term relationship again. You would dream about a life time togetherness when you meet a right person at a right moment of your life.

There are not a perfect person nor a perfect relationship.
There are just perfect moments that are shared with a person who is willing to walk this life path with you and who is willing to create those perfect moments with you.
We just hope that there are more of those perfect moments than those that are not.

You see.. Life is not perfect so the relationship is never perfect.

I had been a single for a very long time before I finally married.
Although I enjoyed my single freedom and independence, I would not want to trade my "not so perfect" marriage for my old single life.

There are tons of joys, pride, lessons, and self realizations when dredging through the challenges of long-term committed relationship, like a marriage.

I have this as part of my desktop wallpaper on my computer

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Originally Posted by sesheta

I have this as part of my desktop wallpaper on my computer

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Thanks Sesheta for sharing...
Those words were just what I needed right now.
I am assuming others need the same reminders as well...

Thanks Sesheta for sharing...
Those words were just what I needed right now.
I am assuming others need the same reminders as well...

Yeah - that little "reminder" is on my desktop - right next to a picture of the love of my life!!! Needless to say, I need that reminder A LOT, lolololol!!!

Thank you for your support guys.