Hi Spiritual1!

What I meant with my post is that accepting your fear is one step on the way. It is a step in a process. Just like when someone is going through grief for instance - there are steps in the process. When you accept something - you don't deny it anymore and you don't run away from it no more. You accept it for what it is. Then the next step that I have found works for me is that you take it bit by bit, as if you have a phobia for instance, the steps on how to get pass that.

In my opinion you have to first of all figure out where this fear comes from, then accept it but don't stay there of course, then treat it (but believe it or not accepting it is part of the treatment, part of the healing process).

When I one time came out of a relationship with a psychopath (psychiatrist labeled him a psychopath) I ended up with panic attacks and I had never before had any mental issues. I had been afraid of him (but always denying I was). I had been mentally abused by him. It had simply piled up. To the outside world he treated me well. In the home, just the two of us, no.

I jumped out of treatment before I was finished healing from it. Bad choice. Did not know it at the time. Thought I was done. Did not want to waste another minute talking about some pathetic guy when I was feeling so much better. But there were still steps left...

I still struggle with my fear in certain ways but now I am 50% sure I am safe and then I am 50% unsure in some fields and thinking but what if...? I know what my triggers are. I know where the fear comes from. I have to ask myself am I overreacting? Or is this a real threat? One has to work with one self.

If we had not felt fear we would have exposed ourselves and others to immidiate danger. It can be good to have fear in certain situations and others not and one has to think is it a real threat? is it from trauma? Then what trauma? What happened? And sort it out that way.