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You give the answer yourself: you make yourself dependent of/on people that mean much to you, esp. a romantic partner.
People often do this when they lack inner strength due to low self-confidence, self-esteem and so on. Then you seek strength in the external.
So working on those things will help tremendously. It could even improve your relationship if you do this as it doesn't feel nice when someone is leaning on you. Unless he needs to be needed.
In any case, when you make yourself dependent on others as you lack inner strength you also develop strong antennae so you can constantly tune in to these others. That way you can anticipate what they need, how they feel etc.
Usually it's that or something very close to that.
So there's no need to switch off your sensitivity. That is actually a strength. You just need to learn how to channel it, for which you first need inner strength, self-worth, self-love etc. etc.
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