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Don't try to forgive too much. Especially with people who take, and take. The takers.
Cultivating a feeling of indifference is more important in order to stay balanced. But the difficulty with this comes when some environmental stimulus tends to take a hold of you, screwing up your balance, usually relating to emotional aspects.
If you're a "natural" forgiving person, try to get angry at someone and see if the person will forgive you instead of the other way around. Then if the individual will forgive you, it will be harder for you to get angry the next time due to feelings of guilt. If he/she doesn't forgive, you tend to get anxious, because you "broke" your own standard or ethos, your own rules, not getting any feedback.
The main point here is to expand your own boundaries. This conjures up a lot energy that you can use if you do.
Don't feel guilty when you become angry. Do not pay all too much attention to some of the exoteric guidelines from spiritual teachers who always say you have to "be good" or be positive. You need to balance things out.
You want to appreciate "divine madness" , as i heard one courageous Buddhist monk say.
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