the hardest lesson I had to learn is that there are just some things I cannot have. No matter how many people tell me I can....
since you are stuck trying really hard anyway, I suggest you start putting your energies toward not believing in things that don't come to pass... as you'll keep hearing about it for however long you want to buy the incredible.
But I will agree that is a very difficult proposition. We are told nearly forever about all the possibilities and if we are just perfect we can have them too. And it all seems so desirable, somehow. Sigh.