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Realisation is a great thing. It means there's distance between you and the stress and strain of what is causing you pain.
I'm not sure that attachment or conditional love is the problem per sae, it's being lost in it. Once you have space around it, it's 'oh, I'm feeling/thinking/needing this again' and you can centre yourself.
Or maybe that's just my experience.
I was very attached to someone for a long time and it caused me a huge amount of suffering, but once I noticed what I was doing I could centre myself again and feel the wholeness and lightness that comes automatically from living within my being. Now I still spend time with this person but it feels more spacious and from a different place because I don't need this person to make me whole, I already have that. It doesn't mean the love is any less deep, in fact more so.
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