I think self acceptance and self care are two very strong components to being self loving. For if you take care of yourself everything around you will take care of itself. The hard part is that self love is a lifelong goal as experiences test us and cause us to experience triggers and blockages on the path to self love. The beauty of it all is that when you can exercise self love you can freely love others too without judgements or expectations. Having boundaries with others, being aware of your morals and what you value could also help too.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts
