Shyness 101 according to Miss Hepburn, hahaha. I make myself laugh.
Fear is at the root of these social anxieties, yes.
The initial core fear is the fear of abandonment as a baby...can't get much more basic than that.
If we are abandoned we will die.
So, rejection (being judged, disliked, disagreed with, laughed at) =s abandonment, which =s fear....at the core
is our initial primal
survival...
self-protection.
Shyness is (and this is not a bad thing) is self-centeredness...
too much focus on 'us'/ 'me'.
If we were to enter late to a party, for example, all eyes were on us...
ha, how awful for a shy person...!...
if we turn our focus from ourselves and turn it to the hostess and say, "What a beautiful house! I love it!"
Then, turn to people as you are taking off your coat and smile and say
a big, enthusiastic "Hi!".
Now, where did the shyness go...we are now being kind and giving our love and attention to others.
I didn't go to therapy 20 years ago and not learn 'something'!!!
