A few days ago, I went to visit my fathers grave where about 5 years ago I'd put mums ashes in the flower pots on the grave as per her wishes.
I discovered that her ashes had not blown away in the wind but they were set there, rock solid and I had to place the flowers on the grave and not the flower pot. I was amazed.
Also, I had a reading off a medium about 6 months ago and she told me to Visit the grave, amazing.