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Originally Posted by inavalan
Forgive those people who have caused harm in your life. Forgiveness, however, is a misunderstood concept. Thanks to self-help and new age movements, it is often thought to be about accepting what has happened to you. No. Forgiveness doesn’t mean you need to accept what a person has done to you. It just means that you are not willing to carry the emotional burden caused by that person anymore.
Even realizing this, there are some people who are not willing to forgive people in their lives. But think of it this way: you are only doing this to yourself. By constantly thinking about revenge and what that person did to you, those people have already won. In reality, the best revenge is indifference. You just don’t allow these people to continue to hurt you or make any difference in your life.
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Forgiveness is an important virtue the importance of which is stressed in almost all cultures. Indeed carrying a grudge against someone for long time is more punishment to self than anybody else .
While there is no undenying the importance of fogiveness , its application can still be situational and deserves following points of consideration.
1. Forgiveness of powerful who can inflict equal if not more collateral damage /pain to the perpetrators of wrong/evil is praise worthy. Normal cases where people have no option but to accept the wrong should not be allowed to be sold or /eulogized as virtue of forgiveness.
2. Intensity / severity/ implications of wrong or evil done must also be taken into account . If forgiveness sets a wrong precedent of doing first wrong and then asking for forgiveness , it must not and should not be used .
3. While forgiving also one should know that wrong doers have repentance and have no hidden desire to repeat it . Forgiving wrong person other innocents may have to pay the price later.