Agree with Native Spirit...it's a misuse of your energies and focus, for one. And it does not honour her free will, for another.
You don't need to control or coerce her...you need to engage and listen and be with her.
Good luck to you.
Peace & blessings
Bound by conventions, people tend to reach for what is easy.
Here we must be unafraid of what is difficult.
For all living beings in nature must unfold in their particular way
and become themselves despite all opposition.
-- Rainer Maria Rilke