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Iamthat, Acceptance is an interesting concept but it means difference things to different people. Acceptance can mean embracing, but what does that look like and if we are playing to words then what is the construct behind the thought of “acceptance.”
It seems to me to be more of a process which might involve a group of inter-related constructs, surrender, letting go, embracing, acceptance, etc. The late Doctor Elizabeth Kluber-Ross developed a generalized grieving process based on her observations of people who were dying. The final stage of that process is acceptance.
Would a celebration of the deceased life and how they lived be more accepting? The closer you are to people the more impact they will have on you and the more likely the dynamics of grieving will be when they are physically gone. I guess in the process of acceptance occasional reminiscence is not non-acceptance.
Memories can stay with us, and the term “memorial” is about memories, regardless whether we are talking about a memorial event, place, memorializing a person, or a memorial statute. We memorialize to remember. But, on a different note, it is also the dying person whose time has come to let go, or accept their transition. Maybe not wanting a funeral is a part of that person’s letting go, or acceptance of something greater.
Peace
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