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Originally Posted by Flexi-Girl
It's easier to stay out than get out.
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everyone likes it clean, but sometimes living with the fact you've got a mess is best.
As far as the idea that one should 'withhold' forgiveness either for retribution or for the idea that the other person should somehow learn something from not being forgiven, I'm not sure I would agree. Who made ME the sole arbiter of what other's lives should be like? So there has got to be more to any decision to forgive or not to forgive than that.
Unfortunately I don't think there is a formula for this... our idea that there is is just to make our own lives easier, or sometimes to keep us from having to face the consequences of our choices.