[Gem]

My feeling is this is practical, not magic, so unless you do what it takes to make it happen, it probably won't. The more organised you are the more clearly you can see the way, and more determined and persistent you are, the better the chances of it becoming real. It comes from being organised, focused on it, and relentlessly getting after it. I you really want it, that comes naturally.

Writing things down helps to organise and clarify it, and if you really want that metaphorical black-belt, you have to keep training until you get it.

Write the list of how you want life to be, and everyday write your 'to do list' based on those goals - and actually do them all. You can see how this works.