King, hello there...nothing you say about Jew or Hebrew makes any sense to me. I don't take your meaning.
The modern-day speakers of Hebrew in Israel do not call themselves Hebrews. That is an archaic term used in the Torah (bible).
It is different than calling folks Arabs. Because no one calls Israelis "Hebrews". And I believe the OP is not referring to an Israeli, either.
Jew was never a derogatory term for Jews, so the fact that others used it in a derogatory sense is not their problem.
It doesn't make the term "Jew" bad for Jews...and to suggest that the term Jew is derogatory for Jews is really deeply offensive.
Do you see what I'm saying? One doesn't look to those who are or historically were prejudiced against you to determine how you label yourselves.
You determine for yourselves who you are and how you will be called or named.
Peace & blessings
7L
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