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Why others do it -or anything- is not really important. It is disrespectful and callous, and such behaviour can easily become a habit.
Like bullying another child at school. At some point that's a habit too, the new normal, a routine.
What you do... definitely not pretend you enjoy it and try to join in.
Clear communication, feminine communication.
- I don't like this. I feel hurt.
- I don't want this. It doesn't make me feel good.
Anything along those veins, preferably followed with a feeling thing in it, as you then draw it into the realm of the heart and feelings, out of the callous.
You don't even need to wait for a reply, you can for instance leave the room.
Depending on what's said, maybe say, "I don't want this. It doesn't feel good, it hurts me", get up and leave. Possibly add "so I'm going to do something else."
You can even be clearer, depending on what is said, and say, "I don't like being treated this way. It doesn't feel good." Then leave or add "I'm going to do something else."
Communicate along those lines. That is feminine communication which is clear and has the goal to express how you feel, which will draw it from the more ego & mental dynamic into the feeling and heart space.
It can have an amazing effect.
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