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Originally Posted by CosmicWonder
I usually try to make people capable of making change for the better or give them the control over their life they need. ...Then they abuse it. ...I’m basically mistreated and bullied in ways. And so are others....Can’t people just be respectful or caring? What is wrong?
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This is basic human nature. We expect others to share our values and we are surprised when we discover that they don't.
What you are doing may be helpful for you, as you grow through helping others. At the same time, something obviously isn't working as you end up feeling mistreated.
One option may be to continue doing what you are doing but without any expectation of how others will use what you are giving. If they benefit then that is great, if they misuse it then that is their business. Don't make it your problem.
Another option may be to use greater discrimination regarding whom you help. Perhaps there is a lesson for you in deciding who will genuinely benefit from your help and focus on them.
An actual example would be helpful to illustrate what you are describing.
Peace