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Originally Posted by LadyVictoria
Wow! You have some really strong opinions and beliefs regarding your supposed "twin flame". Not very flattering in the least.
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A fair point. I really idealized her and put her on a pedestal when I first started spending time with her. I couldn’t imagine that she had any serious flaws, in spite of the fact that 3 people close to me warned me that she had some real problems. In fact, one of my close friends (who had lived in the same dorm with her and knew her fairly well) said that she was “a terrible person” and he said “I would never date her because of the way she was when we lived [in the dorms].” He had a pretty low opinion of her, and I defended her against his bad opinion of her, but after reflecting for several years about her character I have to agree with my mom, sister, and friend: she’s got much bigger character problems than most people. I actually think it was part of my growth experience to go from idealizing her to seeing her (fairly serious) character flaws for what they are. So is there another step after that? Is this about seeing the good in someone whom others describe as “immature” and “very into herself” and “a terrible person”?
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Originally Posted by hitch
I was thinking about your post today & if you feel stuck, it’s becuz you were. For me, I couldn’t move on until information came to light. I still don’t know why the Divine needed me to know these things & gave me a correction on something I was mistaken about, but it did.
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I’ve very open to the idea that I am desperately in need of new information that will change my perspective of the situation. I would be quite happy to learn that I am completely wrong here and that I have badly mishandled the situation. I just don’t know what that information would be. If there are new lessons to learn, I am eager to learn them. I am eagerly awaiting the Universe to give this new information to me.
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Originally Posted by utopiandreamchild
If you want out then simply walk. It's a decision you'll have to make for yourself. Leave with love and no regrets is my advice. Amen
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It does seem that it should be that simple, right? Just walk away and find someone new. Easy. Well if it was that easy, why would there be a Twin Flame forum and a gazillion online dating apps?
I don’t think she’s very happy in her life, but she refuses to change. I’m not sure what to do with that. If a better relationship prospect came along I’d take it without hesitation. But a better prospect - at least as I perceive it - has not come along.
I’m here because I still feel a very powerful connection with her and I still frequently have dreams about her at night. These dreams are often symbolic and have common repeating themes. I want to believe that there’s still some important things that I need to learn from her, but I can’t think of what they are. And I have some hope that she might learn something important from me, but she’s very closed off and doesn’t seem interested in discussing much of anything at all with me.
So if there is something important to learn from her or some important thing I need to do, then I’m very open to that. But after six years I’m out of ideas and I can’t think of what other lessons there are from my connection with her as long as she remains unwilling to discuss anything with me.