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That is what I was saying earlier, there is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting a long term and affectionate relationship.
There is also absolutely nothing wrong with NOT wanting a long term relationship, preferring something more casual instead, both are equally as valid.
Where it gets complicated is when people try and inflict one another's incompatible needs on one another. I would use the word "cruel". If one person is abandoning their needs and desires for the sake of a mediocre romantic relationship, nobody wins and at least one person looses a part of themselves in fact.
How about a scenario where, your desires are COMPATIBLE or for the spiritually minded "IN ALIGNMENT" with another persons desires? That is a WIN - WIN scenario.
As Asearcher said, don't sell yourself too short, own what it is that you need and want in a relationship.
Denial of your needs and desires will most likely keep on leading to the same old kind of relationships, settling for less than what you want, in a loop of dissatisfaction.
Ownership of your needs and desires will more likely lead you to the kind of relationship you deserve.
And if you WANT to be more independent and also want to have a loving, connected and affectionate relationship - You can HAVE BOTH - allow the field of vision to expand.
One thing does not need to come at the expense of the other.
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