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Originally Posted by Emmalevine
To be honest Miss H for many people it's not a choice. People who have grown up in horrific backgrounds, for example, or gone through traumatic experiences, they have to work through painful stuff in order to heal it. It's not simply a question of 'I don't like feeling this way, I'll think about flowers instead and feel happy' It really isn't. I know from my own experience it can take a long time and a lot of emotional repair work to be able to shift into a new way of being. The stuff people go through often IS the work - repressed emotions won't just vanish without being felt- and they need not feel they are doing something wrong if they can't just wake up one day and choose another way. I'm glad that works for some, but it just depends on what someone has gone through and the depth of the pain that needs healing.
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This.
I am actually of the point of wondering that I might never be ok or free. They just don't go away, they are in the DNA, the bones, the blood. I don't have a reference point of being happy. Yes I have happiness in my life and fun but as a rule of thumb, life is substandard. i know it is and I do wonder if there is a solution.
Pockets of fun and joy but not at the end of the day, the default is a low base.
I do keep trying tho and so I must believe somewhere that it is all possible.