NOTE: Too many people get stuck in concepts which, as you point out, is NOT the thing itself. In addition, they often don't have validating direct experiences so I view them as talking heads repeating second hand information. Too many people also seem unaware of the Zen process (Pantanjali Yoga Sutra process as well) whereby one becomes one with the object. Lastly, I suspect that there are very few people here, if any, who will even understand your final question. Great post!
I hope your not referring to me,who by the way is following his own path.Not someone else's.
ps I never preach second hand knowledge.