Hi Native Spirit, thank you for sharing this, God I recognise myself so much in this! the different homes you describe. I can't relax that much in house proud homes and those who are perfectionists, I feel in the way and/or afraid I will destroy something. It is so strange they can go so far in arranging a dinner party and everything has to be (overly) perfect and still even if I can see it with my eyes I can't appreciate it or feel relaxed on the inside.

Good you had that more relaxed - and more welcoming - aunt =)