We mostly make our realities anyway but don't overlook the extent to which others, commerce and marketing, nowadays create realities for us. The uptake of the smartphone should be all the evidence you need of that. Marketing included tech-speak, identity status, meanings production tactics and all manner of things that people have taken into their lives. Reality is all about the meanings of signs.

Baudrillard had a lot of say about that. IIRC Jacques Derrida had his hand in the ideas too.

About true healing.
Unfortunately, workable solutions do take hard work (in terms of self-discipline and practice) but one that seems to work for a few is Israel Regardie's "Art of True Healing." He wrote extensively as Head of the Golden Dawn, able to advise on the back of several centuries of tradition. There's a book (in which others have sought to elaborate) or the original text as a pdf on the web.
Be warned, it won't yield instant results like taking an Aspirin. There's no high speed "spiritual" healing for the instant gratification brigade.

The Middle Pillar Exercise is worth its weight for its internal energic cleansing and use in healing.
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