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Originally Posted by Funny How Time Flies
You can't let go of anything. Letting go is not an action, it's a happening. It will happen by itself. Letting go means not focusing upon it anymore. And if you want to do that directly and say "I will let go of THIS" then your focus is on THIS again. It's a vicious cycle. You can't get rid of anything directly, only indirectly by focusing on something else until what you want to let go slowly falls into the background and loses its momentum.
But there's something else for you to discover here: Do you want to be surrounded by things/people that make you happy or do you just want to be happy? Do you want the conditions to be right so you will be happy by observing pleasing things or do you want to be happy regardless of the conditions? If you can only be happy when the conditions are right, that's hell. If you can be happy regardless of the conditions, that's heaven.
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Well said. Focus on other things in the Key- as well as focusing on how you Can help yourself move on and regain your sense of power and control.
Incidentally, as it's only been two months, I'd say you're in a normal place/stage in the grieving process. Try not to be so hard on yourself.