Originally Posted by Sarian

LOL, I loved that quote by Ellis "There is not much point being the best adjusted nut in the mental home". My laugh of the day.

I got through life as a loner. I knew I had issues, but in a lot of ways, I think that it made me stronger and I saw people different. I could have hated, but I felt pity for others and grief the world could be as it was, but also, in that grief, I found also, that there was great beauty in the world as well, and being through the miserable sides life can hold, it made me value and appreciate all the more the good and beauty. All that said, at one point, when I decided to attend church, this pastor's wife said that I needed therapy...this because she was a social worker and her pastor husband was also a school counselor and big on 12 steps... So that set me on a journey, an experience... one counselor...it was fine...she was 'enlightening me' Then she retired, I went to another and then it was decided that I needed drugs, so of course, this now sheep decided that others knew what was best for me, so I found a good shrink and got on drugs...then I found another pastor who said get off drugs... but now I was so f'd up...til I hit rock bottom and thought what the hell am I doing. it was as though I had given my life over for others to mess up instead of myself... so I toss everything away, not to say I didn't then seek other help in a span of ten years of booting out drugs, shrinks, therapists. Idid see one other woman and she was wonderful...she did past life stuff, but she was just a down to earth REAL person who was not afraid to share her own story and I liked that too.

this is going to be long, after I gave all that above... during the messed up period of my life...some suggested that I join forums for support... I had major depression, oh, you should join these forums. I did, and at first, yes, it was wonderful to yak it up with other depressed persons and see who had it worse... Then someone suggested I join a forum for people who were dealing with a peticular issue to discuss these matters with others who were involved. So I did that. for a time I 'thought' it was a good idea, but one day I simply sat and read and I saw some real issues and that was that no one was getting better. In fact, they were worse. They were living in this yucky, putrid state of pity and no one was growing out of it, climbing out of it. Both sites. It was a wake up call for me. they serve their purpose for a time, but then comes a point when you have to come out of the darkness. I expressed my thoughts with much resistance from others. Wished them well and I went on with waking up and getting on with life rather than being stuck as they were.

by the way, all that said, does not take away from the fact there there are forms of depression that no amount of talking will undue...and sometimes pills does not help. I have to deal with it, but I'm talking about individuals who for example go to a forum and thrive on woe and by continually talking about and comparing pain, instead of help isn't going to make the situation better. yes, you can feel better you arent alone, but that's about it.