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Originally Posted by FairyCrystal
Abraham Hicks says you don't have to go over old stuff, don't have to digest it, ONLY if it is bothering you in your present day life. Otherwise you don't.
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That reminds me of a work mate I used to have. We became close friends at work and I learned she was severely abused in childhood. She told me she was really messed up and got worse and worse because she would go to all these councilors and therapists who wanted her to relive it all. Go back to all those painful memories and discuss them, feel them, work though them and all of that. She said it all made everything much worse. Over time she discovered what worked for her is to never think about those memories. To put them completely out of her consciousness and mind. To stay focused on the present moment and if her attention ever went to those things to "snap herself" out of it. To place her attention back on the now. She said she was very happy that she found a way to live without all that trauma haunting her or being a part of her life.
I've learned myself we can consciously be aware when our attention in on painful memories and just that awareness, "oh I have it here, I am choosing to have it here" frees us. It's like a ghost that can haunt us but we discover we are feeding it, keeping it alive, making it a part of now by placing our attention on it, that realization lets us complexly see the unreality of it. It is only a part of now because of what we are doing. Focusing on it.
Knowing we can direct our attention off of where it may be habitually going is pretty powerful I think.