Saying goodbye to a dear friend
 

From the beginning our friendship was intense and filled with passion. We fought passionately and we loved passionately even though we could never quite have a real relationship we had such an fierce bond and a desire to protect one another.

Through our many quarls and falling outs I frequently found comfort in this song because I knew that no matter what we would reconnect. But after this last time... I think it's finally done.

It's been another long day, filled with things I had to fight the urge to reach out to him over.

It's not easy and when this song came on while I was driving home I started crying.

This is the hardest thing I've ever had to do. :tearyeyed:

How do you love someone so much and let go?

Until I see you again... Be it this life or the next.

https://youtu.be/RgKAFK5djSk

hey, that's a pretty nice song.
here's the thing: you don't have to accept stuff as it appears on 1st impression.
if it's not your will that the relationship should alter in a certain way, don't
allow it to. you must work cooperatively with all other wills involved in any
relationship(s), but if/when you can find common desire, you freely move in
that direction.
to say that your relationship has changed dramatically is to say that it was
mutually agreed upon (at some unseen level probably) for that to occur.
the point: if you want reconciliation, make it happen.
let your will be done.

We just reached an impasse, when I decided I was worth more than he felt I deserved. I had let the lying and disrespect slip so many times but this time he actually told me he didn't owe it to me to be truthful. Even said as much in one of the last messages he left me which I now listen to every time I feel a fondness for him in my heart.

We decide what we are worth by the way we let people treat us. And I'm not willing to accept a friendship where my expectations can not include respect and honesty... No matter how much I care about them.

You made a hard choice, but the right one 002. Thank you for your example and for sharing.

Hey 002Cents, just wanted to tell you youre not alone. And that Im here for you if you ever need to talk about anything. I have also recently left a relationship with very similar circumstances. It is sad, but we are strong. :smile:

Thanks guys. 😊

It's like what another good friend of mine always says, "Sometimes saying no to someone else is saying yes to yourself".

I really do like that song 002cents. I'm feeling it....

wow! that is so far off the mark, it's astounding.
there is nothing of more value than the truth, and to offer you less is unworthy.
it also indicates that he's an inauthentic actor, not being true to his own self.
i advise you to cease 'pining' over this lost opportunity of a relationship...
it was not founded on truth, and can only serve to diminish you if you were
to provide any further energy (or thoughts) in that direction. memories are
fine, so no need to attempt forgetting about the experiences, but they're
probably gonna be most useful as a remembrance of how you escaped a trap,
and not of a failed relationship (imo).

I would be lying to myself if I let myself believe he ever even wanted me enough to want to trap me. I was the mouse that wandered into the tigers den. All the foolishness was my own in what I allowed myself to believe and want. The lessons in this are solid and the evidence that I have learned from this is in the fact that I am moving on.

It's just not easy. For as much as there is to be thankfully done with there is just as much to miss.

Working on assumptions here
You say you have dear friend but not relationship
And yet you said he lies and decive
Perhaps since he knows as.u mention
Your friends and not couple
But passionate and intense which he knew
Again assuming

Then he could have hidden things which could
Be hurtful after all why do.we all look for painful truths i wonder
And perhaps.as friends he have right
To.keep.private life from you and all people
You are friends.as u said not.couple

Am thinking you say you are friends and good.ones
But what caused the.issue is u not accepting friendship boundries
There is no.disrespect.by telling.someone to keep their private life off friendship
I for one do not discuss my private.issue with friends much more

An way had to give opposite opinion to all.rest.saying
How bad person he is or you are right and he is wrong
Voice of silent minority lol