How to do you deal with...
rude people.
There are many ways but this is the method I like the most apart from humour. Don’t let a rude person cause you to respond with more of the same. One of the best ways to defuse rude and negative behaviour is to stay friendly and positive. This gives the other person a chance to calm down and adjust their behaviour to match yours. Kindness can be a a wonderful antidote to rudeness. Showing kindness to someone who is being surly or insulting to others can be extremely difficult. But by setting a calm and well-mannered example, you can prompt them to follow your lead. If this doesn’t work, you can take pride in knowing that you didn’t lower your standards or add your own rude behaviour to the mix. Instead, you maintained your cool. |
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I think I might find it difficult to maintain a friendly disposition in the face of personal attacks...feels somewhat like giving a green light to sadistic behaviour if they are not won over. I won't stand for personal abuse - why should anyone tolerate this? Being assertive can show that you are not a pushover and may even gain their respect. My way of dealing with rude behaviour is to quickly assess what's going on i.e. discern if someone is just letting off steam, may have misunderstood or if I'm up against someone who has an attitude problem (the latter being the hardest to reach some kind of civil exchange with.) I look to understand the person/situation and make allowances for certain conditions e.g. anything that might cause them not to react in a normal fashion. People like to be understood and so, if they get that I'm doing this then it helps to defuse the situation. |
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Slap them, or tell them they're ridiculous, then ignore them.
Just don't get angry, because that's bad for you only. I disagree with the option to respond kindly. You'll get more aggravated, and they won't change. |
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I believe that we aren't here to achieve love. If you look at how nature is set up, including humans, love isn't a goal. Antagonism is necessary. A perpetual sunny place wouldn't be habitable. Not killing to eat (plants are lives too) isn't possible. But, I respect your right to your opinion. We should always follow our inner guidance, putting aside our biases. |
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Love, Compassion, Empathy, Gratitude and Forgiveness. Yes, you are correct in that plants are lives too. However, they have little to no awareness and don't suffer in that sense that animals do. The fear and anxieties of the animal are imprinted into the flesh of the animal that we eat. So we then digest those imprinted emotions. Giving us added negativity. With plants, they understand somehow as they know that their purpose is to help sustain life. I too appreciate and respect your opinion. |
Where do we draw the line?
At my last and long last employment,i had two encounters with ice addicts. Verbally abused within two inches of my face. One threatened to blow my head off! Imo,these two encounters,need tough love. And need there own medicine,like along the lines of having both legs broken etc. In both incidences,an eye for an eye is applicable. A wake up call. Like i had when i was stabbed two decades ago. A wake up call,to turn there lives around. Tough love in these encounters, Cruel to be kind. Gods work,for end goal of common good. Your thoughts Heightend-Awareness,on how you would deal with the above encounters? |
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Not a different kettle of fish at all.
I provided a real life scenario. Try back peddling. |
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